"Hello beautiful girl"

"hello"

"How are you doing? Hope fine i guess. It is my pleasure sending you this little line of mine and hope you can find it in your heart to reciprocate this lovely gesture. I am just like a little kid in the presence of sunlight when i look at the radiance of your beauty. In fact, you are magnificently sculptured and crafted next to angels and everything about you invite me to cherish you the more. I can see the true beauty of a real lady that you are and i feel you worth emailing. I thought we may share some similar interests and I would love to learn more about you.. I love to be fun and spontaneous and enjoy each day finding something joyful to smile about. Hope to read from you soonest and have a lovely day ahead of you."

"thank you"

"Thanks for the mail and i am very glad to actually read from you. Its really my pleasure to read this email from you and i hope that i will read more from you . here is just a brief about myself and i hope that you get back to me as well,i am a very down to earth with a great passion for life and i love to love and being loved.i am sincere, open inded, matured and above all,God fearing.. So, do not think i have it all cuz we are all humans ok..I want you to get back to me and let me know the kind of a person you are and what you are actually looking for so i may know if we can actually get started.I needed a sincere, matured,intelligent and trustworthy lady that truly know what he is looking for.someone that will make me feel great and make me feel like a complete..I basically believe,that trust is the foundation of great relationships and that the race of excellence has no finish line.I love to read but even more importantly i love to listen,because listening is by far the most important communication skill.I also believe that love is patient,love is kind.It does not envy,it does not boast,it is not proud.It is not rude and not self-seeking.It is not easily angered and it keeps no records of wrong.Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth. I need to meet a person with similar views to life.I would prefer to communicate with people in all walks of life.To end it all,i want you to please say something about you and your lifestyle.i can send you more picture of me to you via mail if you want it.have a great time and a beautiful day ahead of you."

I couldn't even respond after this second message he sent. I'm sure he just cuts and pastes these messages and sends them to all his potential "mates", but seriously, when is enough, enough?
Call me old fashioned, but I never really got into the online dating thing. Sure, I have a blackplanet, a facebook, and a myspace account, but I enjoy these for many reasons that have nothing to do with dating. Some examples include, reconnecting with old friends, as well as finding people all over the globe with similar interests (all my Wu-heads, STAND UP). It's quite often I get emails from guys who "display interest in me", but this previous post was a bit much for me. What do you think?

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Since when did it become an aspiration to be a man's "Baby Momma" or "Bust it baby?" Whatever happened to wanting to be someone's other half, or someone's wife. Ladies, hear me out, you are setting yourselves up to be disrespected when you see yourself as nothin more than some niggaz "jump-off"! Then, when he cheats on you, or some other chick calls you, YOU have the nerve to be upset, hurt, disappointed, let down, even surprised. Well, if you don't see yourself as anything more than a "bust-it-baby", then why should he?

I inspire to be so much more than just some niggaz "main chick"... feel me? I'm trying to build a future. I'm trying to carry myself respectively, so my children have a solid foundation to grow on. I inspire to be loved unconditionally... I inspire to be, me.

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Needy men are like....

Seriously, I see them coming, and I run in the other direction... With that being said, don't be surprised when I not longer answer your calls, I've said all I have to say...

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What the hell is wrong with "boys"? Please note, when I say boys, I'm not talking about real men who know what they want... I'm talking about immature guys who misrepresent themselves as "grown men". I just don't get it. Guys ALL the time a dogging women out for being gold-diggers, indecisive, easy, independant, prude, etc., but let's take a step back and REALLY look at the situation for what it's worth.

Remember my friend Mr. L? The guy who took me to the Via Matta (an expensive Italian restuarant)? Well, now, since he took me there, he thinks he owns me. Now, I am supposed to be ready at his beckoned call to just "be avail".... it only took him 3 days to point it out. He and I went out on the Thursday, that weekend I went away to visit my grandma and dad, and by Sunday, the following was in my inbox:

"WHERE IS THE LOVE>? take you on a dateski, and then no love, for "Mr L", i even tried talking to you since then and called you and all that. now im gonna cry. :-( "

Ummmm... I talked to him that Friday morning, and I let him know that I was gonna be 100 miles away visiting my family. Plus, I can't even remember how many times I said thank you, and I really was very appreciative!

With that, I decided maybe I will return the favor and take him out to one of my favorite restuarants, he won't let me, because he doesn't want me to pay. Instead, his suggestion was I take him to Wendy's... WENDY'S!!!! WTF!!!!!! The irony of this whole story is, he didn't even pay when he took me out a few weeks ago, it was a COMPLIMENTARY DINNER FOR TWO!!! But I guess by making the decision to sit down and share a five course meal with a friend, I sold my soul to the DEVIL.... the immature Devil, which is actually worse than the real one (because he has a Wendy's fetish apparently).

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Nothing serious... just talking a bunch of smack... but the point is, he called, and I only had to wait 6 days! I STILL have his hat too (which I made it a point to remind him, lol), let's see when he will come by to pick it up.

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I am just a simple girl who is IN LOVE with a great song! I'm a bit messy, but I can top clean "just enough" to make my place look SPOTLESS! I am very shy, until I have my second glass of wine, or my first martini. I am a romantic at heart with a WILD imagination. I'm still working on my cooking skills, but in the meantime, I have officially been crowned the "Queen of Takeout". I LOVE to have a guy sleep in my bed, but I don't really like to "snuggle" while I'm sleeping (stay on your side, lol). A guy who can make me laugh is such a turn on. I LOVVVVVVVVE to kiss, there is something so intimate about it, and I do it SOOOO well. I'm kinda clumsy, but in a cute, trip-up-the-stairs sorta way. I love to have a guy lay his head in my lap, look up and just talk to me... and, my last lesson for the night is.... I love and envy a man with confidence....

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I don't know what my problem is, but lately, all I wanna do is SLEEP!!! Is it the cool weather? Am I lacking some Vitamins? I GOT nothin!!

Well, I have a date tomorrow with Mr L. We're going to a lecture and then a fancy shmancy Italian restaurant. Mr L is 5 years younger and can be a bit "flaky", but we'll see what tomorrow evening brings. No worries, nothing intimate, just good times and probably plenty of laughs, besides.... Mr R still has to come by and get his hat (haha)

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So, I'm laying in bed reminiscing about Saturday night w/ Mr R. I truly had a good time and needless to say, I was "on"! I feel as though our "encounter" ended well the next afternoon (ha ha), and right now I am leaving the ball in his court. Since I've dealt with Mr. R in the past, I kinda know his M.O. when it comes to the "day after". I pretty much know I'm not going to hear from him right away. I am even at the point right now where if I don't hear from him in a week or so, I don't sweat it. I DO know that once he DOES come around, we have nothing but good laughs, good vibes, good food, good convo, good drinks, good "love", and good sleep after. But being 28, I feel like I'm at a fork in the road, should I be looking for something more substantial, or do I just kick back and enjoy the spontaneity of our reckless/fun engagements? I can almost say with confidence that this last visit impressed him as well.
He seemed quite different the morning after; more kind, more talkative, open (he even stayed longer than normal, watched football and had leftover Chinese Food for lunch)... it was nice and quite refreshing to see him in this different light. I truly wonder what the next few weeks will bring... I haven't heard from him since he left Sunday, but he left his hat.

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